EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) was created by Sue Johnson of Ottawa and Les Greenberg of Toronto. In it, we focus on emotions because our emotions move us in our intimate relationships. As human beings, when we feel safe and secure in relationship we feel loved and cared for and when we feel threatened we feel scared and unsafe. Differences come up for couples and they get into negative cycles/interactions and start to feel unsafe with each other. It is less about the content/issues that couples fight about and more about how couples fight/interact that makes them feel unsafe and therefore defensive.
EFT helps couples de-escalate, slow things down and start to feel, think and express to their partner, what is really going on for them under the surface, to help them connect in a more powerful and loving way.
Emotionally Focused Therapy was created by Sue Johnson and Les Greenberg almost thirty years ago. Today it has been proven that it is an effective treatment for distressed couples and is considered a short term therapy. In EFT research studies, most couples (over 70%) turned their relationship around in 15 – 20 sessions and over 90% of couples “significantly improved” when seeing a trained and certified EFT Therapist.
Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples (EFT) offers a comprehensive theory of adult love and attachment, as well as a Therapy process for healing distressed relationships. It recognizes that relationship distress results from a perceived threat to basic adult needs for safety, security, and closeness in intimate relationships. EFT helps couples by working to strengthen attachment bonds. Having strong attachment bonds means couples feel safe together, know they are most important to their partner, are more flexible in problem solving, communicate, and feel securely connected. The same old fight is finally resolved. The walls that kept you away from each other crumble away and the feelings that brought you together in the beginning revive and grow.
EFT research has been published in professional journals proving its effectiveness. As a model of therapy, it is respected widely in the field as is the therapy co-originator, award winning psychologist, Dr. Susan Johnson. Over the past 30 years many research studies have proven EFT works!
If you’d like to increase your closeness, improve communication, stop fighting or renew the spark of early courtship, then EFT can work for you!